Gay Speed Dating & Queer Matchmaking in nyc

You'll meet a lot of people quickly.  Chemistry?  Optional.  Pressure?  Very low.

• No Physical Contact Beyond a Handshake

Flirting?  Yes.  Touching?  No.

Keep it cute and keep it respectful.

• Drinks Are Encouraged, Not Mandatory

Hydrate.  Pace yourself.

We're matchmaking, not hosting a frat party.

• Submit Your Matches by Midnight

After the event, you'll email us:

-Your Name.

-Your Participant Number.

-The numbers of the people you'd like to match with (max 3 romantic choices, max 3 new potential friendship choices).

Matches only count if both parties choose each other.

If one side chooses the other as both a potential romantic choice and potential new friend, and the other side only chooses one or the other, that chosen option will be the selected match.

• Be Kind or Be Disqualified

Homophobia, transphobia, racism, femmephobia, body shaming, or general jerk-energy = immediate removal with no refund.

Ticket Info

General Admission - $20

• Participate in all 10 rounds.

VIP Admission - $30

• Priority entry.

• Priority match processing.

• Complimentary glass of champagne.

• Optional premium engagement with hosts (mini confessionals you permit us to use on socials).

Wingman Tickets - $10

• Watch the show - encouraged for those who want to check it out before participating.

• Cheer your friends on.

• Drink from the sidelines.

• Wingmen do not participate in rounds.

First Date Tickets (Romantic Matches Only) - No Cost

• Used only by confirmed romantic matches, who will return the next event to meet up over a complimentary glass of champagne.

• Includes free VIP Ticket conversion if your match does not show up.

• First Date Tickets (New Friendships Only) - $5

• Used only by confirmed platonic matches, who will return the next event to meet up and have their first hang.  Either side is welcome to bring their other friends as Wingmen so you can do a group hang if you prefer.

👥 Who is this event for?

Each Cuff It! night is curated for a specific audience (Gay / Sapphic / Bi / T4T / Ace, etc.).

If the event listing says it’s for you — it’s for you.

We prioritize:

• Respect

• Consent

• Inclusive vibes

• People who are open to connection (not perfection)

🧍‍♂️ Do I have to be a certain “type”?

Nope.

There’s no look requirement, no body type expectation, no personality mold.

Be:

• Open

• Kind

• Willing to participate

That’s it.

😬 I’m shy / nervous / awkward — is this okay for me?

Yes. Honestly? Especially for you.

Cuff It! is hosted and structured specifically so:

• You’re never left standing alone

• You’re never expected to “work the room”

• You’re never forced to overshare

The hosts do the heavy lifting — you just show up.

Still unsure?  Purchase a WINGMAN ticket and observe from the wings before committing to participate.

⏱️ How long are the dates?

Each round is short and sweet — long enough to vibe, not long enough to suffer.

If there’s chemistry: great.
If not: it moves on quickly and kindly.

Speed Dating rounds are 4 minutes.

Slow Dating rounds are 9 minutes.

💬 What if I don’t feel a spark with someone?

Totally normal.

You’re not required to:

• Exchange numbers

• Explain yourself

• Be interested in everyone

Cuff It! is about exploration, not obligation.

In fact, one of the only rules includes not exchanging contact information to avoid unwanted pressure.

💖 How do matches work?

You mark who you are interested in romantically (3) or platonically (3) in a survey post-event before midnight.

If you receive a match, you'll receive an email the next day inviting you to return the next week to have your first date with your match.

If your date doesn't show up, we will toss you into the dating pool for the night free.

🧥 Is there coat and bag check?

Yes.

Coat and bag check is managed at the door.
Tips are appreciated but never required.

🪪 What do I need to bring?

• Your ticket (on your phone)

• A valid ID (it’s a bar!)

• An open mind

• Your cute self
  
  

🍸 Do I have to drink?

Nope.

Drinking is optional.
Connection is the point.

Mocktails, water, and non-alcoholic options are always welcome.

💸 What’s included in my ticket?

Your ticket covers:

• Entry to the event

• Full hosted programming

• Participation in all dating rounds

• A fun, curated experience

Drinks are purchased separately from the bar.

🔄 Can I come alone?

Yes — people do.

You will not be the only solo person. Promise.

But feel free to make your friends buy Wingman tickets and cheer you on from the sidelines.

🚫 What if someone makes me uncomfortable?

Tell a host or staff member immediately.

Cuff It! is a consent-first space.
Anyone violating that will be removed.

🔁 Can I come again if I’ve already been?

Absolutely. Many people come multiple times.

Every night has:

• Different people

• Different energy

• Different outcomes

📍 Where is Cuff It! hosted?

Cuff It! pops up at different venues across NYC.

Location details are always listed on the event page.

🕰️ What time should I arrive?

Arrive on time — late arrivals may miss early rounds.

Doors usually open 60 minutes before start time.

💖 What's a Wingman Ticket?

A wingman ticket is a way to check out the event without participating.  It's permission to observe and be entertained by the drag artists, the hubbub of the kinetic energy and fun happening in the room, cheer you participating friends on from a distance, and meet other wingmen there doing the same.  You can also dip your toe in and see if Cuff It is right for you by checking it out as a Wingman before you participate.  Check us out and we can't wait to see you soon!